Don’t be disappointed if your sweetheart doesn’t meet your gaze – that could be very well because s/he is overwhelmed by you! In some cases you will find yourself able to look into anyone’s eyes, but the one who you really like. Shyness often gets in the way of the intensive eye contact, we rarely look in someone’s eyes if at all; it feels uncomfortable (check out this download if you want to boost your dating confidence).
A British scientist found that people look at each other only 30-60% of the time when talking, leave alone eye gazing. In fact, this creates a highly emotional state similar to fear. Now you need to decide what your next move will be – approach or retreat. So, if you want phenylethylamine gushing through his/her veins, look into his or her eyes more. However, it is important to go slowly, do not make this change in one day, otherwise it will seem unnatural; your sweetheart will feel like deer eyed up by a lion!
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It is also important that your eyes are warm and passionate, looking in the empty fish eyes is no fun! Your eyes will look more attractive if the pupils are wide. It gets wider when you look at something you like, or when you think of something pleasant in a way that you almost see it. So, here is the trick: first, look at something you like the most in your lover’s face then look into his/her eyes. Alternatively, you can think about how much you adore him and how happy you are to be around; your pupils will enlarge.
Eye contact is a scientifically proved way of making person fall in love with you. Try it yourself and you will see the difference. Just remember to go slowly. Look in their eyes when speaking and listening; you will be engaging psychological phenomenon without being obvious.
Also see how to read eyes in body language.