Are you annoying? To answer this question, we need to know a little more about you. Please answer the questions below as honestly as you can.
Whenever I hear someone talk about something, I usually find a way to insert myself. I redirect the spotlight to myself, making it look like I have more experience with whatever they talk about or it directly affects me.
Always
Sometimes
Never
I tend to be very critical of those whose standards are lower than mine (weight, body shape, cleaning, work, etc.)
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
It’s important to me that people think that I am right.
True
Partially true
False
Most of the time, I can’t see things from the other person’s viewpoint.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I am told I talk a lot, but it’s hard to stay quiet because I have so much to share!
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I complain and vent to my friends.
Always
Often
Only occasionally or never
I often interrupt others and take over conversations.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
Most of the time, I find listening to others incredibly boring.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I prioritize my own needs, even if it means calling my friends and loved ones in the middle of the night, show up at their workplace, borrowing their things all the time, or repeatedly asking for financial support because I think it’s OK between us.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I am totally addicted to my phone and can’t stop checking it even when I am with someone.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I guess I am not good at understanding cues or reading between the lines.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
People are too sensitive to the things I say.
Always
Often
Rarely or never
I tend to fixate on the negative.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
A lot is going on for me, and I like to mention it to my friends and colleagues.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I must admit I am not a punctual person.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
Sometimes I knowingly repeat the same stories or jokes just because I can’t cope with the urge to tell them again and again.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
When I go to visit someone, I stay for at least 4 hours or more.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I like to brag about how crazy busy I am.
Agree
Agree slightly
Disagree
I post vague Facebook updates whenever I am upset about something and want attention.
Yes, every time
Sometimes
Never
There were things that I borrowed and didn’t return.
Yes, many times
Maybe once
Never
40-60 Very high
20-39 High
1-19 Occasional awkwardness — most people will score here.
Any score above 0 means that you engage in at least some of the “annoying” behaviors listed above. The higher the score, the more issues you may have to work on.
If you have any self-hatred issues, it might be challenging to answer these questions objectively. In this case, seeking professional help would be the best course of action.
The questions are based on the survey we ran earlier. The questions are arranged by the degree of the frustration they cause others, based on our readers’ answers.
If you would like to know more about the survey, you can view it here.
Very few people can honestly say they scored zero on this test. However, the fact that you are here suggests that you are becoming more self-aware.
Now that you realized some of the communication problems you may have, you can take steps to eliminate these behaviors and become more pleasant to be around.
Finally, truly annoying people don’t usually recognize their problem and do not wonder whether they are annoying. The fact that you are even interested in this test shows your ability to appreciate constructive criticism and your willingness to improve.
This test is provided for educational purposes only and is not a replacement for professional advice.
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