Have you been a bit of a naughty boy? Is it time to go groveling back to your girlfriend with your tail between your legs, promising to change and make a difference to the relationship? If you struggle to say the words you need to say to win back her affections, it’s time to go back to basics. Forget phone calls, voicemails, emails and insta-whatever’s, you need to put pen to paper. It’s time to write her a letter… an apology letter.
Before you dive right on in, read this important information on how to apologize to anyone and, when it comes to girls, it’s probably best that you learn a few things:
Get to the point!
No one likes it when you ramble on, so keep things short and sweet. If you’re rambling on eight A4 pages later, she’s probably gotten bored… or fallen asleep. You don’t need to write down every emotion you’ve ever felt for the last five years; you just need to put how you feel right now. Keep it brief and get to the point.
You might not want to admit that you were wrong but unfortunately, you’re going to need to do exactly that. If you don’t know what you did wrong, don’t bother apologizing. It won’t go down well when you tell her that you are “sorry for whatever it is I did”… She won’t like that at all.
Let’s say that you accidentally sent a naughty text message to another girl on a night out, after one too many bottles of beer. You didn’t mean the text, and you certainly would never want to cheat on your girlfriend. It was just a stupid thing that you did, and you don’t really know what was behind it. Alcohol, more than likely.
If that is how you feel about the situation, put that into the letter. Tell her that you regret, and also that you understand how it would have made her feel – betrayed, sad, angry, bitter… imagine all of those emotions all at once. Imagine just how you would feel if you found out that your girlfriend had done the dirty on you. You wouldn’t be happy, we’re sure of that.
Why are you writing the letter? You must miss her to go to all this trouble to get her back. Tell her that you miss her. What do you miss about her? Do you miss that silly little laugh she does when she has a mouthful of candy, watching comedy movies on a Saturday night? Do you miss the way that she can’t walk n heels but pretends that she does, and how you don’t mind carrying her home every time she wears them despite how you might moan? She wants to hear these things. You don’t need to tell her everything, but in the apology letter to your girlfriend, you should at least know how she has affected your life, and why you want her back so badly. If you can’t come up with reasons why you want her back, you probably shouldn’t be trying in the first place.
The trick behind the apology letter to your girlfriend is to win her back, and you must know her better than anyone else by now. You need to be honest and brief, but still tell her everything that you want to say. If it looks like it might be getting a bit long, break things down a bit. You don’t need to tell her EVERYTHING right this very moment, do you?
Above all else, put some effort into it. A three-line long letter in the middle of the page isn’t likely to give her inspiration to come running back into your arms. She’s a girl – they like grand gestures. Perhaps you should add a bunch of flowers to that apology letter too?
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