Your self-confidence is defined by several factors such as
- your upbringing,
- your social network,
- your financial situation,
- your social status,
- what others tell you about you,
- your past achievements or the lack of thereof,
- your life experiences,
- your natural disposition to think and behave in a certain way.
And while these days there is a lot of focus on developing self-confidence, it is possible to take it a little over the top, and others will begin to see you as an obnoxious and selfish person.
According to some behavioral psychologists, the degree of your self-confidence can be expressed on a continuum scale. The beginning of that scale (score “0”) is reserved for an extremely hesitant and anxious person who doesn’t know how to begin or end a conversation, doesn’t know how to reject an unreasonable request, who cannot properly express her anger or demand what she wants or needs.
On the other end of that scale (score “100”) , there is a place for an overly confident and selfish person. That person is only concerned with her own wants and needs. When she wants something, she shows an utter disregard for common courtesy or rights and privileges of other people.
Right in the middle of that continuum scale (score “50”) , there is a place for a balanced, confident, and courteous person who will defend her rights without being offensive and can clearly communicate her negative emotions without upsetting others.
What about you? Where do you stand on that scale? Take the test below to find out!
If someone kept kicking the back of your seat in an airplane, would you complain?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
When someone is unfair to you, do you point it out to them?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
If your neighbors were loud, would you confront them about it?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
If after purchase you discovered that the item you bought is damaged or is imperfect/incomplete, would you return it?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
When someone cuts in line, do you openly protest and try to prevent them?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
Do you express your opinion when you disagree with someone’s point of view?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
Do you avoid uncomfortable conversations even when having these conversations may resolve some of your emotional issues or other problems?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
Do you sometimes buy things you don’t need just because you don’t want to disappoint salespeople, or do you avoid entering some stores just because salespeople seem too intimidating?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
If someone didn’t return a borrowed item on time, would you remind them about it?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
When you meet someone new, do you introduce yourself first and start a conversation?
never
rarely
occasionally
often
always
Your result will appear here.
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