Check all that apply:
You are told that you are too sensitive.
They hit you or threaten you physically.
They call you names.
They gesture aggressively near your face.
They don’t understand your feelings.
They always ridicule you.
They question your credibility.
They have a way to turn the conversation back on you.
They constantly make you jump through the hoops.
They yell.
They are playing hot and cold.
They don’t want you to believe in yourself.
They take important decisions that involve you without you.
They throw things or pound their fists.
They start arguments for seemingly no reason.
They do or say something hurtful just to see your reaction.
You gradually realized that you couldn’t trust them.
They embarrass you in public.
They blame you for their problems.
They cancel your plans.
They accuse you of things you haven’t done.
They have very high expectations of you, but there is no effort on their part whatsoever.
The way they treat you in public is very different from the way they treat you when nobody’s watching.
They threaten to leave.
They make fun of your friends or family.
They try to guilt-trip you.
They make you look foolish.
They make you constantly apologize even though you didn’t do anything wrong.
They change the facts by pretending that you don’t remember the situation correctly.
Sometimes they disappear for a while in order to punish you.
They manipulate you into paying their bills or otherwise using your money, property, and things.
They make fun of your appearance.
They think your feelings aren’t important or even valid.
Every time you attempt to address their inappropriate behavior, they dismiss you.
They don’t want to discuss your relationship issues with you.
They harm themselves just to make you worry.
Not only romantic partners can be abusers. They could be your family members, bosses, colleagues, classmates, or even friends. Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is important because often, victims don’t understand what’s going on, and it takes them a while to realize that they are being abused.
Even if you checked only a few boxes above or just one, it’s worth discussing this relationship with someone qualified to help. If the above behaviors occur regularly, you definitely need professional help.
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