ENFJs and INFPs are very compatible with each other and have a great chemistry together. They are both idealists (NF) and have a lot in common. To begin with, they connect in a similar way:
- They both prioritize their deeply held values.
- They both seek emotional connection.
- They are both authentic and don’t like to play games.
- They both have great communication skills and are likely to discuss everything.
The INFP is attracted to the ENFJ’s energy, optimism and positive attitude while the ENFJ is drawn to the INFP’s deep and thoughtful nature. Both types are honest and are likely to do all the right things to fall in love with each other.
How to make an INFP fall in love
We wrote a lot about the INFP personality type — you can find a detailed profile here (includes dating and relationships) and here (tips on how to make your INFP happy). To make an INFP fall in love with you, you need to be genuine. Remember: There are very few things the INFP hates more than phony people.
With an INFP, you don’t have to be pretentious or stylish or worry about how you come across, all you need to do is to be yourself — the real you.
Fortunately for the ENFJ, they don’t know any different. They couldn’t lie even if they tried, so naturally the INFP is attracted to their authenticity and honesty.
Having said that, the INFP doesn’t fall in love easily. They have this ideal vision for everything, and that includes their potential partners as well. Finding someone who can live up to that standard isn’t easy and even then the INFP may have second thoughts.
How to make an ENFJ fall in love
Loving people is the ENFJ’s default operation mode (also see our detailed ENFJ profile). You need to allow them to express their affection and take a sincere interest in them and what is important to them.
In personal relationships, they look for an ultimate romance — they want candlelight dinners, flowers and meaningful gifts. They have an idealized perspective of relationships, and they also tend to idealize their partner and fall in love with that idealized version.
How to tell if an INFP likes you
INFPs are very selective about whom they allow to enter their private world, and it takes a long time to get to know them. They are reserved about their feelings and generally seem dark and mysterious, which makes them even more attractive. When they meet someone they like, they try to act friendly just to see if the person reciprocates. Being extremely sensitive to rejection, they will only make their move if they see that the person is mutually interested.
The INFP has high standards when it comes to potential mates, and it may take a long while until they meet that special person. Once they do, they will go the extra mile to make sure they both have a perfect dating experience. Despite the INFP’s spontaneous nature, when it comes to dates and special occasions, they take time and actually plan things in advance, taking care of aesthetics and tiny details.
How to tell if an ENFJ likes you
It’s easy to tell if an ENFJ likes you because they are typically very obvious about it. They give their affection freely without holding anything back. If they like you, you instantly become their priority and you will spend a lot of time together.
How to make an INFP feel loved
INFPs have difficulty in articulating their feelings and may forget to tell their partners how much they love them. On the other hand, they want intimacy in the relationship and encourage their partners to share.
The INFP needs frequent reminders of their partner’s love. They won’t “just know” if you don’t tell them. It is also important to remember that INFPs are extremely sensitive and get hurt easily. Avoid criticizing them and give them a lot of attention without smothering them. Here are 36 more ways to make your INFP feel loved.
How to make an ENFJ feel loved
To feel loved, ENFJs need verbal displays of affection, a lot of attention and a lot of time together. Moreover, they need to feel that their partner is committed and loyal.
ENFJ and INFP: The Negatives
On the negative side, ENFJ and INFP relationship isn’t without problems. Conflicts may arise for several reasons:
- They have different energy levels with the ENFJ being more energetic and active than the INFP.
- The ENFJ likes to plan things in advance while the INFP wants to keep his or her options open.
- The INFP needs space and may feel smothered by the ENFJ.
- The INFP is naturally messy, and the ENFJ may feel that they are left responsible for a disproportional amount of household chores.
- Because the ENFJ is naturally active and tries to do many things at once, he or she may come across as bossy and controlling.
- Both may avoid confrontations allowing their issues escalate even further.
Despite all the negatives, they are very compatible with each other. If they can work on their little differences and respect each other’s needs, they can make a strong couple, marry and stay together for years.
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