Active and outgoing ESTPs make fun friends and fascinating partners. Never dull or boring, they want their life to be action packed and fun. ESTPs are naturally gregarious and want to be around people who don’t overcomplicate things and share their interests — sports, travel, photography, art, acting, entrepreneurship, etc.
When it comes to romantic relationships, ESTPs have two important needs:
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- They need someone they could spend time with — a playmate.
- They want to be their partner’s priority.
ESTPs who try to make the most of every day tend to avoid traditional types, such as ISTJs, or very shy types, such as ISFPs. Instead, they look for someone fun, someone who shares their love for action and could go on adventures with them.
ESTPs dislike routine and predictability and are best compatible with spontaneous types. Although they want to take the center stage in the relationship, they crave for a little bit of challenge and tend to be attracted to more independent types who have life of their own outside the relationship. In addition, ESTPs aren’t into deep heart-to-heart conversations and may avoid emotionally intense types, such as INFJs.
ESTPs are master persuaders who are great at figuring out other people and know how to say the right thing at the right time. Once they spot a person they believe is a good match for them, naturally flirtatious ESTPs will use their skills to impress them and conquer them. Other than being fun, spontaneous and independent, it helps if their potential partner has similar interests — something they could pursue together.
ESTPs aren’t the most committed partners in the world and have a tendency to move on once the relationship becomes too boring and predictable. Sometimes they may try to give it a chance by surprising their partner with something extravagant, such as a trip together or a gift; but if things remain boring, they will probably leave. The good news is that as ESTPs mature, they become more concerned about how their actions affect other people and there is a much better chance at building a family with an older ESTP.
ESTP women are somewhat at odds with society expectations. Being objective, rational and down-to-earth, they are not traditionally feminine and may be shunned by other women and men who prefer more stereotypically feminine types.
You may be wondering which of the 16 personality types are best compatible with the ESTP personality type, but in reality any relationship can work if the two partners take time to learn about each other’s preferences. We’ve already discussed the ESTP compatibility with some of the 16 types:
There will be more posts on the ESTP compatibility with other types soon.
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