I often wonder if people talk about my appearance negatively.
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If I don’t like something, I surely let everyone know.
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I avoid new people and new places.
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I can talk to strangers if I need to.
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I am concerned with other people’s negative opinions about me, even if they are strangers.
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To be honest, I am jealous of my friend’s other friendships.
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I feel uncomfortable around strangers.
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I am a resilient person.
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I feel embarrassed when my close friends or family members argue with other people.
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I never had problems with public speaking.
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I avoid difficult conversations.
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I feel like I am constantly being judged.
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I never learned a foreign language because of my fear of making mistakes.
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Sometimes I feel intimidated by salespeople.
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I make friends easily.
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It’s difficult for me to call a business to ask questions, such as what they offer or when they close.
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I don’t avoid my opponents, enemies, or those who criticize me.
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I don’t intervene in other people’s disagreements.
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I never ask twice for anything.
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I never knew how to turn down after-work parties, although I hate them.
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I soften my position to avoid disagreements and arguments.
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I feel embarrassed to ask questions when I don’t understand.
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I don’t hesitate to criticize others publicly.
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I am not sensitive to criticism.
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I don’t know how to say no.
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The idea of job interviews makes me really anxious.
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I feel confident in any outfit.
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I don’t hesitate to ask for help.
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I don’t know how to confront those who borrowed my stuff and didn’t return it.
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I avoid disagreements.
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20. I am a very straightforward person.
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People don’t check on me.
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I never feel alone in the company of other people.
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I am extremely sensitive.
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I never worry about my first impression.
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I connect with new people quickly and easily.
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When it comes to communication, my strategy is to prepare myself for the worst.
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I wonder whether other people are staring at me.
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I avoid those who don’t like me.
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Although I definitely can see other people’s admirable qualities, something prevents me from giving them compliments.
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Extremely sensitive to rejection
While relationships are extremely important to you, you probably have only a few close friends and family members with whom you communicate frequently.
Your fear of rejection prevents you from getting out there and meeting new people, taking new job offers, and visiting new places.
To be on a safe side, you tend to imitate others in what they do and how they dress. You might also have some people-pleasing tendencies.
You obsess about other people’s opinions about you, and you often second-guess yourself.
You often worry:
- Did I wear the right clothes?
- Do I look all right?
- Did I choose the right words to express myself?
- Did I make a good impression?
- I wish I didn’t say that!
- I probably can’t pull that off!
The diplomat
You are a diplomat. You know that living in a society means sticking to certain social norms unless you want to be rejected.
You are a confident person, but it doesn’t mean you are rejection-proof. You don’t particularly enjoy being criticized by others, and you aren’t the type to go out in your PJs.
Having to stick to the rules doesn’t bother you, and you generally know how to compromise.
You avoid openly criticizing others, and express your opposing opinions in the form of suggestions.
Nonconformist
You aren’t concerned about other people’s opinions about you and don’t like to mince words.
If you have an opinion about something, you will express it whether others like it or not.
Some people think you are blunt, but this doesn’t change a thing.
After all, being yourself is the only way to ensure that you meet those who genuinely like you.
While rejection may be somewhat unpleasant, you don’t obsess about it and keep trying until you get what you want.
How to deal with rejection in Love
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