Fear of Rejection Test: Are You Too Sensitive?

Fear of rejection doesn’t always look obvious. It can show up as avoiding conflict, worrying about other people’s opinions, holding back in social situations, or finding it difficult to say no.

The test below is designed to estimate how sensitive you are to rejection and social disapproval. It is not a diagnostic tool and is provided for educational purposes only.

I often wonder whether people talk negatively about my appearance.
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If I don’t like something, I make sure to let everyone know.
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I avoid new people and new places.
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I can talk to strangers if I need to.
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I am concerned about other people’s negative opinions of me, even if they are strangers.
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To be honest, I am jealous of my friend’s other friendships.
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I feel uncomfortable around strangers.
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I am a resilient person.
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I feel embarrassed when my close friends or family members argue with other people.
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I’ve never had problems with public speaking.
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I avoid difficult conversations.
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I feel like I am constantly being judged.
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I never learned a foreign language because of my fear of making mistakes.
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Sometimes I feel intimidated by salespeople.
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I make friends easily.
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It’s difficult for me to call a business to ask questions, such as what they offer or when they close.
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I don’t avoid my opponents, enemies, or those who criticize me.
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I avoid getting involved in disagreements because I’m afraid someone will become upset with me.
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I never ask twice for anything.
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I’ve never known how to turn down after-work parties, even though I hate them.
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I soften my position to avoid disagreements and arguments.
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I feel embarrassed asking questions when I don’t understand something.
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I can express disagreement even when I know the other person may not like what I have to say.
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I am not sensitive to criticism.
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I don’t know how to say no.
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The idea of job interviews makes me really anxious.
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I feel confident in any outfit.
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I don’t hesitate to ask for help.
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I don’t know how to confront people who borrow my things and don’t return them.
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I avoid disagreements.
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I don’t change my opinions just to gain other people’s approval.
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I worry that people will lose interest in me or stop wanting me around.
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I never feel alone in the company of other people.
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I am extremely sensitive.
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I never worry about my first impression.
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I connect with new people quickly and easily.
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When it comes to communication, my strategy is to prepare myself for the worst.
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I wonder whether other people are staring at me.
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I avoid those who don’t like me.
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Although I can definitely see other people’s admirable qualities, something prevents me from giving them compliments.
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GET RESULTS

How to Interpret Your Results

The Approval Seeker

Relationships are extremely important to you, but you probably have only a few close friends and family members with whom you communicate frequently. Your fear of rejection may prevent you from getting out there and meeting new people, taking new job opportunities, and visiting new places.

To be on the safe side, you may sometimes imitate others in what they do and how they dress. You might also have some people-pleasing tendencies. You worry a lot about other people’s opinions of you and often second-guess yourself.

You may often worry:

• Did I wear the right clothes?
• Do I look all right?
• Did I choose the right words to express myself?
• Did I make a good impression?
• I wish I hadn’t said that!
• I probably can’t pull that off!

The diplomat

You are a diplomat. You know that living in a society means sticking to certain social norms unless you want to be rejected.

You are a confident person, but that doesn’t mean you are rejection-proof. You don’t particularly enjoy being criticized by others, and you aren’t the type to go out in your PJs.

Having to stick to the rules doesn’t bother you, and you generally know how to compromise. You avoid openly criticizing others and express opposing opinions in the form of suggestions.

Nonconformist

You aren’t particularly concerned about other people’s opinions of you and don’t like to mince words. If you have an opinion about something, you will express it whether others like it or not.

Some people think you are blunt, but this doesn’t change a thing. After all, being yourself is the only way to ensure that you meet people who genuinely like you.

While rejection may be somewhat unpleasant, you don’t obsess about it and keep trying until you get what you want.

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