I have a friend with severe depression and anxiety. Sometimes she acts like everyone and sometimes she is completely unpredictable and weird. When she looks healthy, she is the most caring friend I have. But then anxiety and depression, and perhaps medication take their toll and it becomes nearly impossible to deal with her. She will either hide and I can’t reach her for many months in a row, or she acts strange.
How do you stay friends with someone like this?
this is certainly a tough question to answer. I can understand your confusion and think the fact that you came here to look for advice shows that you are a very caring friend.
When it comes to people with emotional problems like your friend has, it can be very difficult to stay friends or have a healthy friendship. However, if your friend had another health problem, like cancer for example, you would never even consider abandoning her.
This short movie can give you an idea what your friend is going through right now.
So while you probably have to admit the fact that you cannot have a “normal” friendship (unless she heals) you should commit to be caring and understanding friend just like she is when she feels good.
Your friend is probably in a very lonely place. When she closes herself off as you described, she must be very scared and anxious. The best thing to do is to educate yourself about her disorder and encourage to seek for professional help.
Hope this answers your question.