INFPs take personal relationships very seriously and don’t fall in love very easily. They have an ideal vision of love and that ideal isn’t easily attained. It will take some time for the INFP to make up his or her mind about someone, and even then the INFP may have second thoughts regarding that person.
INFPs dislike fake people, so don’t try to appeal to the INFP by being pretentious, “cool” or stylish. First and foremost, the INFP wants to be with a sincere and authentic person who makes him or her comfortable. Another rule is to never stress INFPs — do not impose your own structure on them, do not force them to do things they don’t like to do and give them plenty of time alone. There is a lot more on INFPs’ needs in romantic relationships here and here.
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INFP and ESTP Relationship
These two don’t have much in common but both have a relaxed and easygoing attitude to life. Another commonality is that just like the INFP, the ESTP doesn’t rush to commit. However, the ESTP delays commitment for other reasons than the INFP. If INFPs do it because they are looking for ideal love, ESTPs are concerned about being stuck in boring relationships they can’t get out of without drama.
INFPs and ESTPs may bond over their mutual desire for life experiences. The ESTP may become captivated by the INFP’s imagination and originality, and there is a lot to like about the ESTP. However, they have very different energy levels and introversion / extraversion preferences, which may lead to disagreements and resentment later on.
ESTPs are extremely gregarious and outgoing people while INFPs need some time alone. If the ESTP engages in social activities alone, the INFP who takes almost everything personally may resent his or her partner. On the one hand, INFPs don’t want to join their ESTP partners, but on the other hand, they resent them for leaving them alone. All this is too much to deal with for ESTPs and they may become bored and annoyed with their INFP partners.
INFPs may sometimes become disillusioned with their ESTP partners too. ESTPs tend to do what works for their goals and don’t usually obsess over principles and values — a trait that idealistic INFPs find detestable. INFPs may feel like ESTPs are constantly hiding behind a mask and are too manipulative, which is, of course, a deal breaker for them.
INFP and ESTJ Relationship
These two literally don’t have anything in common, but it doesn’t mean they can’t make their relationship work. In fact, their different personal strengths can be complementary, provided they can be patient and respectful toward each other.
Of course with all the differences, there are many opportunities for conflict. ESTJs want to have a stable and secure family life so that they can focus on their career. Their house should be tidy and well-organized, their food should be ready on time and they definitely don’t want any drama. But INFPs are naturally moody and tend to take things personally. In addition, they are somewhat lazy when it comes to cleaning and organizing.
Also the ESTJ honors traditions — something that the INFP doesn’t care for. ESTJs are likely to become disappointed that INFPs don’t do what traditions require them to do, while INFPs may feel that ESTJs constantly impose their rules on them.
INFP and ENFJ Relationship
INFP and ENTJ Relationship
INFPs and ENTJs can bond over their mutual love for discussion. Unlike the ESTJ, the ENTJ isn’t into traditions and is open to new and original ways of thinking and doing things. In addition, ENTJs are very imaginative — a big plus in the INFP’s book.
Their main problem is the INFP’s tendency to become upset over small things, which makes the ENTJ feel like they need to be walking on eggshells. And it doesn’t help that the ENTJ doesn’t like to mince words — the INFP may find the ENTJ too harsh and intimidating.
There are other issues too: their different needs for social stimulation, their different standards when it comes to housekeeping, their different decision making styles. Unless they commit to learning about each other’s preferences and being patient with each other, the two are likely to argue about a myriad of things.
INFP and ISTP Relationship
Because these two personality types are both introverted, they have somewhat similar needs and preferences when it comes to social life. Both enjoy their time alone and both like to do what they like to do regardless of what others expect from them. In addition, the ISTP isn’t bothered by the INFP’s relaxed approach to housekeeping, which is a big plus in the INFP’s view.
On the negative side, they have different communication styles. ISTPs aren’t emotionally expressive, but INFPs need constant reassurance of their partners’ love and commitment. To ISTPs, their partners’ attempts to pressure them to express their emotions feel annoying and uncomfortable. INFPs tend to get hurt and withdraw while ISTPs may decide that INFPs are overly dramatic and too intense.
INFP and ISTJ Relationship
ISTJs and INFPs look at relationships differently and have very different needs. INFPs want love, romance, support and good time together. ISTJs, on the other hand, honor traditions, they are practical and dependable and want to do things “properly”. While they are extremely demanding of themselves, they have high expectations of their partners as well. ISTJs expect their partners to put in as much effort as they do, which includes running errands and doing household chores, which is very stressful for INFPs.
On the positive side, both are introverted and enjoy their time alone or with a small group of close friends. ISTJs in general are a great choice for almost anyone because they are very stable and reliable. ISTJs can be attracted to INFPs’ warmth and creative ways of thinking.
INFP and INFJ Relationship
Romantic and emotionally expressive INFJs are a great match for INFPs. They have a lot in common:
- their value orientation,
- their sensitivity,
- their empathy,
- their introversion and desire for time alone,
- their authenticity,
- their loyalty,
- their attention to each other’s needs,
- their desire for peace and harmony.
On the negative side, the two may clash if they have different opinions about certain issues because when it comes to their values, none of the two is willing to compromise. In addition, the INFJ respects standards set by society and wants to do things in an appropriate manner, but the INFP doesn’t like schedules and acts only when inspiration strikes.
INFP and INTJ Relationship
It may seem like the INFP and the INTJ are very different people, but in reality they have a good potential because the two are intellectually compatible. Thanks to their vivid imaginations and future orientation, they are likely to have interesting and stimulating conversations. In addition, they are both private people and there will be no pressure to participate in social activities they don’t particularly care for.
Unfortunately, INTJs aren’t very sensitive and don’t sugarcoat things when they are unhappy about something. They want to control all areas of their lives: Their finances should be in order, their house must be clean and organized. But with INFPs’ leisurely approach to life things often get out of hand and conflicts may arise. In addition, being very independent and career-focused, the INTJ may be unable to meet the INFP’s emotional needs.
INFP and ESFP Relationship
Meeting others’ emotional needs is one of the ESFP’s greatest gifts, and of course he or she will make a great life partner for the INFP. In addition, the ESFP feels no need to control others whatsoever, which is great for the INFP who doesn’t like stress and pressure.
On the negative side, happy-go-lucky ESFPs aren’t the most committed partners in the world and don’t hesitate to end relationships once they get bored. Once the initial spark wears off, the ESFP may decide that the INFP is too serious, too cautious and too boring.
INFP and ESFJ Relationship
The ESFJ is another fantastic option for the INFP. When it comes to relationships, these two have similar goals: commitment, loyalty, emotional connection, companionship. ESFJs can be very affectionate and romantic, which is great for INFPs.
Having said that, the two can get on each other nerves because of their many differences. To begin with, the ESFJ is very traditional and wants to do things “properly” while the INFP is very imaginative and wants to explore new possibilities. The ESFJ is very energetic while the INFP takes time to make up his or her mind about something and even more time to act. Because the INFP values personal comfort more than cleaning and organization, the ESFJ partner will have to clean and organize the house alone. After a while, the ESFJ may begin to resent the INFP and view him or her as lazy and messy.
INFP and ENFP Relationship
These two understand each other very well and enjoy a great emotional connection. This isn’t surprising considering the fact that they share three of the four preferences. Their main problem is their different energy level. The ENFP is extremely social while the INFP needs more time alone. The ENFP is also very affectionate with everyone and this may make the INFP more than a little jealous and uncomfortable. You can learn more about their differences here. Also you may be interested in 10 Ways ENFPs Annoy Others.
INFP and ENTP Relationship
INFPs and ENTPs have a somewhat similar attitude to life:
- Both are very adaptable.
- Both like to explore new possibilities.
- Both like to play.
- Both are nonconformists.
Even their different introversion / extraversion preferences aren’t an issue as the ENTP is the most introverted extravert.
Problems may arise due to their different communication styles: the ENTP can be very straightforward while the INFP has a tendency to take things personally. The INFP may think that the ENTP is harsh and insensitive while the ENTP may decide that the INFP is too moody. In addition, ENTPs can be very career focused, which may make INFPs feel alone and neglected.
INFP and ISFP Relationship
Gentle and non-imposing ISFPs are a good match for INFPs. ISFPs prioritize relationships and put their partners’ feelings and needs before their own. They are not materialistic and share similar relationship values with INFPs.
Some of their differences may contribute to disagreements. The INFP is more future oriented while the ISFP lives in the here and now. The ISFP enjoys sports and outdoors while the INFP is more of a reader / thinker type. In addition, both tend to avoid conflicts, and if the two have a disagreement or a problem, none of them is likely to step forward to attempt to discuss and resolve it. There is a lot more on their commonalities and differences here.
INFP and ISFJ Relationship
ISFJs value marriage and family. They are extremely sensitive themselves and will have no difficulty dealing with emotionally vulnerable INFPs. In addition to having a great emotional connection, the INFP and the ISFJ are both introverted and have similar preferences when it comes to spending their free time together.
On the negative side, the ISFJ is more of a down-to-earth type. Because ISFJs typically work harder and dream less than INFPs, they may find themselves stuck doing the chores and paying the bills, which may lead to disappointment and resentment. In addition, both value peace and harmony and are unlikely to discuss their issues. Having said that, both will stay in the relationship even when things go awry.
INFP and INFP Relationship
Being with someone of their own type feels very satisfying to the INFP. Shared values, shared feelings, shared attitude to life, great emotional connection — all you need for a thriving relationship! Their only issue is that they share their weaknesses too:
- both are overly sensitive to criticism,
- both are somewhat disorganized and messy,
- both aren’t very good with money,
- both avoid confrontation so they aren’t likely to resolve their disagreements.
INFP and INTP Relationship
Although the INFP and the INTP share three of the four type preferences, the INTP isn’t a particularly sensitive type and may frustrate the INFP by being completely ignorant about the INFP’s feelings. To make things worse, the INTP wants a logical explanation for everything and that includes the INFP’s frequently changing moods and emotions.
On the positive side, they are both private and quiet. They are both into intellectual pursuits, such as reading, writing, thinking, speculating about causes or effects. They both enjoy art and movies. None of the two partners wants to control the other.
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