So you are in a relationship with an INFP! Here’s how to minimize or altogether avoid disagreements and keep your INFP partner happy.
1. Be genuine — INFPs dislike those who play games in relationships.
2. Make yourself available — INFPs aren’t the type to go after those who play hard to get. They think it’s tiring and annoying.
3. Learn to slow down and enjoy leisure time with your INFP.
4. Show your INFP that you care about his or her opinion.
5. Don’t press for urgent answers — a typical INFP needs plenty of time to think about an issue before making a decision.
6. Share your feelings without showing negative emotions — your INFP may decide to step back and not express his or her feelings for the sake of keeping things calm.
7. If your INFP complains about something, listen attentively and take notes. More often than not, they keep their negative feelings to themselves; if they are sharing it with you, it means they trust you enough to listen to them and do something about it. Don’t disappoint them!
8. Don’t force INFPs to participate in social activities if they don’t want to.
9. Be willing to pass on some social invitations to spend some quiet time alone with your INFP.
10. Appreciate your INFP’s originality and make an effort to put it into words to make sure they know you recognize their uniqueness.
11. Avoid criticism and be diplomatic instead.
12. Make sure your INFP doesn’t feel abandoned when you participate in social activities he or she doesn’t want to join.
13. INFPs can be moody at times — don’t assume it’s your fault.
14. Share your INFP’s interests so that you can experience them together.
15. Be willing to explore some alternative approaches to improving your relationship. For example, your INFP may suggest getting relationship counseling.
16. Don’t force them to do chores or projects that aren’t urgent.
17. Don’t interrupt your INFP when they are talking — they may withdraw and never want to share again.
18. Don’t feel like you need to fill the silence — your INFP enjoys being quiet sometimes.
19. Encourage your INFP’s creative pursuits, even if they don’t involve you.
20. Don’t plan too much; learn to be spontaneous and enjoy spur-of-the-moment activities with your INFP.
21. When your partner shares their feelings, focus on being supportive and understanding instead of trying to “fix” everything.
22. Be gentle and considerate; INFPs take almost everything personally.
23. Don’t speak harshly of others in the INFP’s presence.
24. Don’t impose too many rules on your INFP.
25. Allow them to have areas in the house where they can have as much clutter as they like. INFPs don’t belong to one of those orderly types, and their natural tendency to develop attachments to objects makes things even worse. Be patient!
26. Don’t try to compete with your INFP partner — they detest it.
27. Surprise your INFP with something pleasant, such as a spontaneous date or a trip.
28. Compliment your INFP when they do something right, even as little as organizing their closet or finishing a project. INFPs aren’t naturally good at these things, but complimenting them will encourage them to do more.
29. Allow them to have some time alone — they need it.
30. Make your INFP a priority.
31. Stay flexible. Don’t be too rigid and avoid the temptation to impose your structure on the INFP.
32. Help your INFP to do tedious chores, such as cleaning.
33. If you have any issues with your INFP partner, don’t discuss them publicly.
34. Encourage their quest for self-discovery.
35. Instead of nagging your INFP, find a way to inspire them.
36. Be patient when your INFP is being vague, doesn’t finish sentences, or leaves out essential details. It’s just the way they are.
More information on INFP here, the INFP’s compatibility with the 16 types here. All posts on all other types here. All posts on the INFP here. To take a scientifically validated personality test, go here.
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