36 Ways to Make Your INFP Happy

So you are in a relationship with an INFP! Here is how to minimize disagreements, avoid unnecessary tension, and keep your INFP partner happy.

1. Be genuine. INFPs dislike people who play games in relationships.

2. Make yourself available. INFPs are not the type to chase people who play hard to get. They find it tiring and annoying.

3. Learn to slow down and enjoy quiet leisure time with your INFP.

4. Show your INFP that you care about their opinion.

5. Do not press for urgent answers. A typical INFP needs plenty of time to think about an issue before making a decision.

6. Share your feelings without overwhelming them with negative emotions. Your INFP may decide to step back and avoid expressing their own feelings for the sake of keeping things calm.

7. If your INFP complains about something, listen attentively and take it seriously. More often than not, INFPs keep their negative feelings to themselves. If they are sharing them with you, it means they trust you enough to listen and do something about it. Don’t disappoint them!

8. Do not force INFPs to participate in social activities if they do not want to.

9. Be willing to pass on some social invitations so you can spend quiet time alone with your INFP.

10. Appreciate your INFP’s originality, and make an effort to put it into words so they know you recognize their uniqueness.

11. Avoid criticism and be diplomatic instead.

12. Make sure your INFP does not feel abandoned when you participate in social activities they do not want to join.

13. INFPs can be moody at times. Do not assume it is your fault.

14. Share your INFP’s interests so you can experience them together.

15. Be willing to explore alternative ways to improve your relationship. For example, your INFP may suggest getting relationship counseling.

16. Do not force them to do chores or projects that are not urgent.

17. Do not interrupt your INFP when they are talking. They may withdraw and never want to share again.

18. Do not feel like you need to fill every silence. Your INFP enjoys being quiet sometimes.

19. Encourage your INFP’s creative pursuits, even if they do not involve you.

20. Do not plan too much. Learn to be spontaneous and enjoy spur-of-the-moment activities with your INFP.

21. When your partner shares their feelings, focus on being supportive and understanding instead of trying to “fix” everything.

22. Be gentle and considerate. INFPs tend to take almost everything personally.

23. Do not speak harshly of others in your INFP’s presence.

24. Do not impose too many rules on your INFP.

25. Allow them to have areas in the house where they can keep as much clutter as they like. INFPs are not one of the orderly types, and their natural tendency to become attached to objects makes this even harder. Be patient!

26. Do not try to compete with your INFP partner. They detest it.

27. Surprise your INFP with something pleasant, such as a spontaneous date or trip.

28. Compliment your INFP when they do something right, even something as small as organizing their closet or finishing a project. INFPs are not naturally good at these things, but praise may encourage them to do more.

29. Allow them to have some time alone. They need it.

30. Make your INFP a priority.

31. Stay flexible. Do not be too rigid, and avoid the temptation to impose your structure on the INFP.

32. Help your INFP with tedious chores, such as cleaning.

33. If you have any issues with your INFP partner, do not discuss them publicly.

34. Encourage their quest for self-discovery.

35. Instead of nagging your INFP, find a way to inspire them.

36. Be patient when your INFP is vague, does not finish sentences, or leaves out essential details. It is just the way they are.

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