The Phlegmatic is the most sensitive of the four temperaments.
When it comes to their potential partners, phlegmatic people seek common intellectual and emotional ground, which will serve as a bridge from heart to heart.
Because they reveal their feelings right in the beginning, rejection can deeply hurt them.
These people do not see dating as a fun experience as many Sanguine people do. Dating to them is always about marriage or a long-term committed relationship.
They want to nurture their loved ones, and they want to form a bond. When dating, they genuinely give their 100%, and sometimes they may get so tired emotionally that they stop dating for a while.
Once phlegmatic people find “the one,” they work on maintaining intimacy with this partner. They will avoid conflicts and make major adjustments and sacrifices — all for the sake of this cherished bond.
Everything that happens within the relationship — such as an odd phone call here and a text there — is considered an essential part of their relationship to the point where they actively enjoy analyzing their relationships and their partners’ thoughts and motives.
Of all four temperaments, this is the most romantic one. They fall in love most frequently, and romance is critical to them. They plan romantic evenings and weekends well in advance. They will send you romantic cards, give you hugs, and confess their love hoping you reciprocate.
Because phlegmatic people have a rich fantasy life, they tend to idealize their partners. It is when they delve further into the relationship and discover that their perfect partner isn’t quite as perfect as they once thought the entire relationship is almost deemed to be ruined or “poisoned” to the point where they may not even be interested anymore.
It is important to mention that although phlegmatic people seek harmony and spend a lot of energy building connections with their partners, they don’t like clingy and overly demanding people.
Your secondary personality type plays a powerful role in how you come across.
The Phlegmatic-sanguine type likes playful and adventurous partners.
The Phlegmatic-melancholic type is excellent at managing people. They are also very sympathetic and tactful.
Phlegmatic-choleric people also search for a perfect match but can be tough-minded and analytical at the same time.
Generally, all phlegmatic types value marriage, and it is their ultimate goal in a relationship. If they realize that their partner is not their soul mate and will not become their soul mate, they will leave them searching for their “true” match.
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