A study conducted in 1989 assures that simple eye contact could make a person fall in love with you (Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird). In this study two opposite sex strangers were asked to gaze into each other’s eyes for two minutes, which in some cases was enough to produce passionate feelings for each other. Eye contact is a powerful stimulator of love and affection. When you look someone directly in the eyes, their body produces chemical called phenylethylamine that may make the person feel in love. If you want to make someone fall in love with you, one of the first thing you should do is to look into their eyes.
Don’t be disappointed if your sweetheart doesn’t meet your gaze – that could be very well because they are overwhelmed by you! In some cases you will find yourself able to look into anyone’s eyes, except the person you really like. Shyness often gets in the way of the intense eye contact — we rarely look in someone’s eyes if at all; it feels uncomfortable.
A British scientist found that people look at each other only 30-60% of the time when talking, leave alone eye gazing. In fact, this creates a highly emotional state similar to fear. Now you need to decide what your next move will be – approach or retreat. So, if you want phenylethylamine gushing through your sweetheart’s veins, look into their eyes more. However, it is important to go slowly, do not make this change in one day, otherwise it will seem unnatural; they will feel like deer eyed up by a lion!
It is also important that your eyes are warm and passionate, looking in empty fish eyes is no fun! Your eyes will look more attractive if the pupils are wide. It gets wider when you look at something you like, or when you think of something pleasant in a way that you almost see it. So, here is the trick: first, look at something you like the most in your lover’s face, then look into their eyes. Alternatively, you can think about how much you adore them and how happy you are to be around; your pupils will enlarge.
Eye contact is a scientifically proved way of making person fall in love with you. Try it yourself and you will see the difference. Just remember to go slowly. Look in their eyes when speaking and listening; you will be engaging psychological phenomenon without being obvious.
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Also see how to read eyes in body language.
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