Have you ever wondered whether your relationship is toxic?
You know that love is supposed to feel wonderful, but this has not been your experience so far. Perhaps your relationship has brought you more anxiety than joy, yet you cannot free yourself from it. You cannot change it, and you cannot walk away.
While no online assessment can give you a definite answer, the test below is designed to help you analyze the situation. It may help you spot potential red flags so you can take steps to protect yourself from harm.
They intentionally make you feel jealous.
You apologize when you know you should not because you are afraid of losing them.
Overall, you feel confused about this relationship.
You know that, unfortunately, you cannot trust them.
You often feel anxious before meeting them.
You make excuses for their questionable behavior.
You constantly compete for their attention.
They tell you that you are too sensitive or irrational.
They are extremely demanding.
You do not know where you stand.
They constantly criticize or ridicule you.
You are gradually losing your confidence.
They drain your energy.
They compare you to other people.
They are very inconsiderate.
They blame other people for their problems.
They are hot and cold.
You have had to give up things you loved for the sake of the relationship, but they have not had to give up anything.
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You cannot share your real feelings.
They are not the same person you fell in love with.
They blame you for almost everything.
You are often forced to apologize for what you said and how you said it, even though you know there was nothing wrong with it.
Overall, the relationship feels very complicated.
They make you feel inadequate.
They use condescending language.
You are not allowed to make your own plans. Every morning, you wait by the phone to see whether they need you that day.
You have gradually become isolated from your friends and family.
You do not feel like yourself anymore.
Checking even one of the boxes above may be a cause for concern, depending on the situation. No online quiz is 100 percent accurate, but if several of these statements describe your relationship, you may want to discuss the situation with someone who can evaluate it more objectively, such as a therapist or counselor.
If you feel unsafe, threatened, isolated, or controlled, consider reaching out to someone you trust or contacting a local domestic abuse support service. You do not have to handle the situation alone.
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