Are you in a relationship with an ENTJ? Congratulations! You must be pretty good-looking, because that is usually the first of many requirements ENTJs have.
Not only do you look good, but you also managed to snatch one of the highest-earning personality types, according to a 2015 study. Considering today’s volatile economy, that is no small thing.
Now you may be wondering how things will go from here, especially as you begin to realize that your significant other is not an ordinary person.
This post explains it all: how ENTJs fall in love, date, commit, marry, and, sometimes, break up.
ENTJs and Attraction
As we mentioned in our detailed ENTJ profile, ENTJs fall in love quickly and easily.
ENTJs, both men and women, are naturally competitive and want a partner with above-average looks. However, ENTJs are far from superficial, and being just a pretty face will not have an ENTJ singing ballads under your window.
People with this personality type have ambitious goals, and they will not allow emotions to ruin their plans, no matter how painful that may be.
To be with an ENTJ, you need to fit into their overall plan. You should complete their image of success and attractiveness without overshadowing them. In other words, you should be successful and attractive without competing with your ENTJ.
There are exceptions, of course. Sometimes ENTJs choose their complete opposites, such as ESFPs, Sanguines, and other fun-loving, spontaneous types. ENTJs enjoy their optimism and originality, while their partners have fun trying to loosen up hardworking and ambitious ENTJs.
More often than not, it is very young ENTJs who go for these types.
Although a well-developed ENTJ can enjoy a healthy relationship with any type, ENTJs are generally thought to be most compatible with ISTPs and INTPs.
ISTPs and ENTJs share some essential characteristics:
- They are direct and honest.
- They are emotionally self-contained.
- They appreciate constructive criticism.
- They are both intellectual types.
INTPs and ENTJs also have several things in common:
- their thirst for knowledge,
- their need for independence,
- their love of debate,
- their ambition.
ENTJs and Dating
If an ENTJ likes you, they will let you know with their characteristic directness. Similarly, their partners always know where they stand in the relationship because ENTJs like to keep things clear and dislike ambiguity.
Because they are always in a hurry to get things done, they may sometimes appear insensitive and inattentive to their partners. On the other hand, ENTJs can be sentimental and romantic — two qualities they are aware of and actively try to keep under control.
ENTJs feel happiest when they feel appreciated by their partners. They want their partners to allow them to demonstrate their many capabilities while still maintaining their mental independence.
ENTJs have difficulty having nothing to do and will usually try to plan dates and leisure activities to make the most of every hour. Some spontaneous types may be bothered by this ENTJ trait.
But if they want to stay in a relationship with an ENTJ, they need to accept the ENTJ’s intense need for planning and organization.
ENTJs and Marriage
ENTJs, both male and female, see themselves as producers and providers. Being married to an ENTJ can give you a strong sense of stability.
Your boss may fire you. Your friends may betray you. But your ENTJ will be there for you — steady and reliable, as always.
Once again, this trait is not limited to ENTJ men. ENTJ women can hold the castle just as well as men if the need arises.
When it comes to love, people of this type are not very verbally expressive and may use gifts and the fruits of their labor to please their partners.
Another interesting characteristic of ENTJ relationships is that ENTJs will not make a lot of promises to their partners. Instead, they prefer to surprise them. It could be gifts, a new house, a better lifestyle, a trip, or something else entirely.
A typical ENTJ will not go on and on about future plans or all the things they can do for you. They prefer to prove themselves through action.
Because ENTJs need to organize everything, their house should be clean and organized too. They will do their share of chores and will get annoyed if their partners do not do their part.
Similarly, they expect their partners to pull their own weight financially and contribute to the household to the degree that is culturally appropriate.
As parents, ENTJs have an overall vision for their children’s future. With their typical achievement orientation, they set goals for their children and provide all the necessary support, whether that means tutors, books, or additional classes.
An ENTJ parent is not necessarily overbearing, but they feel responsible for helping their children make better choices.
Sometimes ENTJs may have difficulty striking a healthy balance between their personal and professional lives. At times, they can become so preoccupied with their career that they neglect their families and their needs.
However, no amount of talking will convince them to change their ways. Once the ENTJ is on a mission, they simply cannot stop.
ENTJs and Breakup
When it comes to ENTJ relationships, one of the most important things to keep in mind is that ENTJs hate laziness.
Once they discover that their partner is lazy, they gradually lose attraction until they cannot take it anymore. It might take some time if they are in a committed relationship with children, but it is only a matter of time before they decide to break things off.
Another important point is that ENTJ men and women expect to maintain their mental independence and their ability to decide for themselves throughout the relationship. If their partners cannot support this ENTJ need, they will end the relationship and move on.
The ENTJ is a decisive type, and once they have made up their mind, there is no going back.
When an ENTJ breaks up, it is over for good. There will be no on-again, off-again nonsense like there may be with some other types.
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