Are you in a relationship with an ENTJ? Congratulations! You must be a really good-looking person as it is the first of many requirements ENTJs have. Not only do you look good, but you also managed to snatch one of the highest earning personality types, according to a 2015 study. Considering today’s volatile economy, this is a no small consideration.
Now you may be wondering how things will go from here, as you are beginning to realize that your significant other isn’t an ordinary person. This post will tell it all — how ENTJs fall in love, date, commit, marry and, sometimes, break up.
ENTJs and Attraction
As it was said in our detailed ENTJ profile here, ENTJs fall in love quickly and easily. ENTJs — both men and women — are naturally competitive and want to have a partner with better than average looks. However, ENTJs are far from superficial and being just a pretty face won’t get you an ENTJ singing ballads under your window.
People with this personality type have large goals, and they will not allow emotions to ruin their plans no matter how painful it may be. To be with an ENTJ, you need to fit his or her overall plan. You should complete their own image of success and attractiveness without overshadowing them. In other words, you should be successful and attractive without competing with your ENTJ.
Having said that, sometimes ENTJs pick their complete opposites, such as ESFPs (or Sanguines) and other fun-loving spontaneous types. ENTJs enjoy their optimism and originality, while their partners have fun trying to loosen up hard-working and ambitious ENTJs. More often than not, it is very young ENTJs who go for these types.
Although a well-developed ENTJ can enjoy a healthy relationship with any type, it is generally thought that they are most compatible with ISTP and INTP.
ISTPs and ENTJs share some important characteristics:
- They are direct and honest.
- They are emotionally self-contained.
- They appreciate constructive criticism.
- They are both intellectuals.
INTPs and ENTJs have following common characteristics:
- their thirst for knowledge,
- their need for independence,
- their love of debate,
- their ambitiousness.
ENTJs and Dating
If an ENTJ likes you, they will let you know with their characteristic directness. Similarly, their partners always know where they stand in terms of the relationship as the ENTJ likes to keep things clear and dislikes ambiguity.
Because they are always in a hurry to get things done, they may sometimes appear insensitive and inattentive to their partners. Having said that, ENTJs can be sentimental and romantic — the two qualities they are aware of and actively try to keep under control.
ENTJs feel the happiest when they feel appreciated by their partners, when they allow them to demonstrate their many capabilities and stay in the relationship while maintaining their mental independence.
ENTJ have difficulty having nothing to do and will attempt to plan dates and leisure activities to make the most of every hour. Some spontaneous types may be bothered by this ENTJ trait; but if they want to stay in the relationship with an ENTJ, they need to accept their intense need for planning and organization.
ENTJs and Marriage
ENTJs — both male and female — see themselves as producers and providers. Being married to an ENTJ will give you a sense of stability: Your boss may fire you, your friends may betray you, but your ENTJ will be there for you — steady and reliable, as always. Once again, not only ENTJ men have this trait; ENTJ women can hold the castle just as well as men, should such need arise.
When it comes to love, people of this type aren’t very verbally expressive and may use gifts and fruits of their labor to please their partners. Another important characteristic of ENTJ relationships is that they will not make a lot of promises to their partners and will surprise them instead — it could be gifts, a new house, a better lifestyle, a trip, etc. A typical ENTJ will not go on and on about his or her future plans and things they can do for you — they prefer to prove themselves with action instead.
Because ENTJs have a need to organize everything, their house should be clean and organized too. They will do their share of chores and will get annoyed if their partners don’t do their part. Similarly, they expect their partners to pull their own weight financially and contribute to the household to the degree that is culturally appropriate.
As parents, ENTJs have an overall vision for their children’s future. With their typical achievement orientation, they set goals for their children and provide them with all necessary support — be that tutors, books or special classes. An ENTJ parent isn’t necessarily overbearing, but they feel responsible for helping their children make better choices.
Sometimes ENTJs may have difficulty striking a healthy balance between their personal and professional lives and become so preoccupied with their career that they neglect their families and their needs. However, no amount of talking will convince them to change their ways — once the ENTJ is on a mission, they simply can’t stop.
ENTJs and Breakup
When it comes to ENTJ relationships, one of the most important things to keep in mind is that ENTJs hate lazy people. Once they discover that their partner is lazy, they gradually lose attraction until they can’t take it anymore. It might take some time if you are in a committed relationship with children, but it’s only a question of time when they decide to break things off.
Another important point is that ENTJ men and women expect to maintain their mental independence and ability to decide for themselves throughout the relationship. If their partners can’t support this ENTJ need, they will end the relationship and move on.
The ENTJ is a decisive type and once they made up their mind, there is no going back. Once an ENTJ breaks up, it’s over for good — there will be no on-again off-again nonsense like it’s the case with some other types.
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