Choleric Temperament in Love and Relationships

For people with a choleric temperament, dating is not entertainment in the same way it often is for sanguine people.

Choleric people tend to approach dating the way they approach other areas of life: they analyze their hopes, needs, goals, and the person in front of them. They usually want a partner who shares at least some of their interests because they need someone they can exchange ideas with and talk to about the subjects that matter to them, whether that is science, strategy, work, politics, or something else that keeps their mind engaged.

People with this temperament are often attracted to those who are good listeners, able to handle conflicts and disagreements well, and comfortable in social situations.

While choleric people tend to analyze and hide their own emotions, they often look for someone who is emotionally expressive and flexible. This is one reason they may form personal relationships with people who belong to the Phlegmatic personality type.

Choleric people are usually not interested in several relationships at once, and many have little dating experience when they are young. They may act awkwardly, and if they do not see a future with you, they may seem distant, impatient, or careless with your feelings.

Because of their straightforward style and take-charge approach, they may end a relationship abruptly, sometimes when the other person does not expect it.

On the other hand, if they find someone they believe is worth their time and effort, they will focus intensely on that person. They can be very romantic and ready for deep commitment.

Instead of expressing their emotions directly, they may show love by trying to make your life easier. They like to be needed and may want you to tell them about your problems and difficulties so they can help you solve them.

Compared with other temperaments, this type falls in love less frequently. Choleric people may have only a few serious relationships in their lifetime. However, once they decide to build a relationship with one special partner, they are not quick to leave. Even if the relationship is not exactly what they wanted, they are not the type to change their minds easily.

As always, a choleric person’s secondary personality type affects how they love and what kind of partner they are drawn to. In general, choleric people are highly independent and follow their own rules.

People with a mixed choleric-sanguine temperament are very self-sufficient and need plenty of time alone. They are imaginative and adventurous, and they seek someone who shares these traits without competing with them.

Choleric-melancholic people are highly motivated to succeed. In relationships, they know what they want and will not settle for less. They usually have plans for their life and look for someone who can support those plans without holding them back. It can be difficult to get to know them because they often hide their real personality behind calmness, humor, or emotional restraint.

The choleric-phlegmatic type is usually the most romantic of the choleric combinations and places great importance on loyalty. These people may give gifts, remember anniversaries, and make a serious effort to keep the emotional bond strong.

In general, with choleric people, you know where you stand. They will let you know what they want and how they wish to proceed.

If they think they could have a future with you, they can become very dedicated partners. Despite their tough exterior, they may also be sensitive to the slightest sign of rejection.

• Choleric Personality Type