For people with a choleric temperament, dating is not fun like it is with sanguine people. Choleric people approach dating in the same manner they approach other issues in their lives – they analyze their hopes and needs, as well as the potential partner. It is crucial that this potential partner shares their goals and interests because choleric people need someone to exchange ideas and talk about what interests them, such as science and politics.
People with this temperament are attracted by those who are good listeners, smart at handling conflicts and disagreements and have other recognized social skills.
While they analyze and hide their own emotions, Choleric people look for someone who is emotionally expressive, flexible and even hesitant. Oftentimes they form personal relationships with people who belong to the Phlegmatic personality type.
Choleric people usually are not interested in several relationships at once and have little dating experience when they are young. They may act awkwardly, and if they don’t envision future with you and are not interested in you, they may treat you with neglect and be very impatient. Because of their forthright style and take-charge approach, they are likely to end the relationship abruptly when you may not even expect it.
On the other hand, if they find someone who they think is worth of their time and effort, they will focus intensively on that person. They can be very romantic and are ready for a deep commitment. Instead of expressing their emotions they will focus on pleasing you by getting you what you want. They like to be needed; they want you to describe them your problems and difficulties so that they can fix it for you.
Between all four temperaments, this temperament falls in love less frequently. They have only few serious relationships during their lives. However, if they had decided to build a relationship with that one special partner, they wouldn’t leave it easily, even if it wasn’t exactly what they wanted – they are not the type of people that change their minds easily.
As with all types, the secondary personality type of choleric people affects how and who they love. Generally they are highly independent and follow their own rules. People with mixed choleric-sanguine temperament are very self-sufficient and need a lot of time alone. They are imaginative and adventurous and seek someone who shares the same traits without being competitive with them.
Choleric-melancholic people are highly motivated to succeed. In relationships, they know what they want and won’t settle for less. They have plans and are out looking for someone who helps them to achieve their goals. It is difficult to get to know them because they hide their real personality behind tranquility and humor.
Choleric-phlegmatic type is the most romantic type between choleric people. They give special gifts and celebrate special events. Loyalty is crucial to them.
In general, with choleric people you know where you stand. They will let you know what they want and how they wish to proceed. If they think they could have a future with you, they become very dedicated partners, sensitive to the slightest sign of rejection.
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